The old man and the cat

Longtime local resident John Gaul and (below) his new feline friend.

By BARBARA KATE REPA

FOR MANY YEARS, John Gaul has been a fixture on Fillmore. Strolling and bussing through the neighborhood, he has been a dapper presence, doling out advice and good cheer along the way.

But just lately, his gait has slowed. He is getting about now with the help of a walker since he fell on the stairs a couple of months ago while giving one of his regular tours at the Haas-Lilienthal House on Franklin Street. And then he lost a dear and longtime live-in companion: a tabby cat named Felix. But his spirit remains strong, and he’s still up for a new challenge.

“I’m going through what people my age go through — a seismic shift, a breakdown of the body,” says Gaul, who will turn 87 in November. “But I have to go on. And I wanted something that needed someone to take care of it.”

But Gaul’s attempts to adopt a new feline friend were unsuccessful at Animal Care and Control, the San Francisco SPCA and Pets Unlimited — all of which rejected him because of his age, or his aloneness, or his limited funds.

By most lights, the rejections are hard to imagine. Gaul, who lives at the John F. Kennedy Towers public housing complex on Sacramento Street, just off Fillmore, is a vibrant being — full of good conversation and astute observation.

As he gets about the city, he’s always dressed to the nines, nattily attired on a recent day in a red tie, blue striped shirt, vest with double watch chain and herringbone jacket, his white beard impeccably groomed.

And then there’s the voice — a deliberate, old-fashioned oratorical cadence inspired by the radio days of the 1940s and nourished by listening daily to the announcers on the local classical station. “I like the alto voices and the counter tenor,” he says. “Somewhere in between; that’s where I want to be.”

So he works at it, doing daily voice exercises to perfect his pitch and studied delivery inspired by the Dale Carnegie training he emulates. But with Felix gone, there was no one to listen. “I wake up in the morning and there’s no living thing around,” he says. “I miss having a cat to pet.”

After he was repeatedly rejected by the likeliest animal shelters, a friend found a hopeful lead: Give Me Shelter Cat Rescue, a nonprofit group dedicated to finding homes for adult and senior cats — those most often euthanized in shelters. Its founder, Lana Bajsel, listened to a few details about Gaul’s situation and immediately homed in on a few potential prospects for him. She agreed to bring them to Give Me Shelter’s adoption center at the Petco on Sloat Avenue so they could all suss out one another.

On the appointed Sunday afternoon, she arrived pushing a shopping cart laden with three carriers, accompanied by loud choruses of meows from within.

“It was a circus all the way over here,” she announced, beckoning Gaul inside to meet her charges.

First out of the carrier was Brenda. As Bajsel extolled the 4-year-old female cat’s virtues — she had already been spayed, vaccinated, microchipped and tested for various diseases — Brenda let out a powerful hiss and swatted at Gaul’s extended hand.

Next up was Gypsy, another tabby with a small bald spot who nuzzled Gaul at once; and Buddy, a larger black and white fluffy male with a special fondness for Fancy Feast. Those two might as well not have bothered making the trip.

“That’s the one that appeals to me,” declared Gaul, eyeing Brenda. “Those markings. And the size; I’m in a small unit in city housing.”

“Ah, you like the spitfires,” Bajsel said, nodding knowingly.

Before they parted ways, Gaul had loaded Brenda in her carrier onto his walker, ready to head for home.

“She’s a beautiful animal: a tabby — I’m partial to them — with topaz eyes and white boots,” he explains to a visitor a week later. “And something seemed noble about her from the very beginning — the yowling, the hissing, the scratching. When I saw her, I thought: ‘I wonder what she’s protecting and how I could appeal to that.’ And I also thought: ‘Maybe I can do this. I want that challenge,’ ” he says. “The others thought she wasn’t adoptable. But I see something there. I just do.”

Bajsel later gives some details about Brenda’s challenging past: She came in to Animal Care and Control as a stray and was put on the list for disposition — a polite term for “kill” — after scratching a volunteer.

But Bajsel doesn’t blame the cat.

“Volunteers at Animal Care and Control are not always cat savvy. I’ve seen them, talking away on their iPhones when they’re supposed to be observing and handling the animals,” she says. “But if anyone gets scratched or bitten, the animal is automatically disposed of.”

Once she was ensconced in her new home with Gaul, however, Brenda slowly began to get a little friendlier. She also got a new name: Ariadne.

“In Greek mythology, Ariadne was stranded on an island in the Aegean Sea and left alone until she was found by the god Dionysus,” Gaul says. “It’s the story of abandonment and rescue — just like this one. I’ll call her Ari for short. She’s the perfect cat for me.”

While Ariadne’s not talking, the feeling seems to be mutual. She’s taken to curling just below Gaul’s knees as he naps in the afternoon. And recently, she swatted playfully at a chain he was putting on his wrist.

“She watches everything I do,” says Gaul. “Old men get up at night — and she follows me.” Then, for Ariadne, it’s back to the basket filled with fabric at the back of a closet that she claimed early on as her personal respite.

In her most accommodating moments, Ariadne will walk back and forth just under Gaul’s hand so that he can stroke her from nose to tail. “I get a delightful sense of touch — and I need that,” he says. “And even her yowling appeals to my aural sense.”

She’s yowling less frequently now, though. “We get along,” says Gaul.

He credits past experiences for his current pluck. For a decade, he conducted tours of the Palace of Fine Arts, designed by the legendary architect Bernard Maybeck for the 1915 Panama-Pacific Exposition. It was there that he connected with Maybeck’s daughter-in-law, Jacomena. The two became so close they talked at 9 o’clock every morning until she died a few years ago at age 95. He recalls her final words in their last telephone conversation: “I’m like a small child standing on the edge of the world. I’m ready to step off now.”

Gaul credits the friendship with an awakening. “Jacomena was a coach of sorts,” he says. “Through her, I began to know what Bernard Maybeck was about. And that fits in with honoring certain ideas, no matter how hard they are. I walked into that world, and I couldn’t have been more lucky.”

The friendship fueled Gaul’s interest in the Swedenborgian Church at Lyon and Washington Streets, which Maybeck helped design. He was a driving force behind getting the Swedenborgian declared a National Historic Landmark in 2004.

His last docenting gig was at the Haas-Lilienthal House, which he refers to as “that stately Victorian home,” where he took the life-changing tumble down the stairs.

Still, he’s not letting the fall keep him down. “If you don’t take on life, you’ll be a victim,” he says. “I won’t be that. What else do I have to do? Sit and feel sorry for myself? I won’t do that, either.

“And when I look back, I think life is good,” says Gaul, who adds he takes no medications and never has. “When you get old, you begin to see that life is winding down. Is it sad? No — not if I decide it’s not.”

Gaul says he now treasures his relationships with others more closely, particularly younger people he can help puzzle through their problems. He finds them serendipitously: on the bus, at the laundromat, in the Safeway.

But there’s nothing quite like a cat.

“This limerick I wrote sums it all up,” he says. “I call it ‘Lonely Old Man.’ ”

There was an old man, all alone
Who remarked, “I’m beginning to groan.”
Give Me Shelter heard that
And provided a cat
Which did quiet that lonely man’s groan.

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UPDATE: “They rescued each other

A local Olympian: like father, like son

Olympic fencer Alexander Massialas

By Julia Irwin

NEIGHBORHOOD RESIDENT and fencing champion Alexander Massialas is realizing a dream — and continuing a family legacy — by competing in the summer Olympics in London.

His father and coach, Greg Massialas, also fenced in the 1984 and 1988 Olympic Games and qualified for the 1980 games in Moscow, which the U.S. boycotted.

“It’s a really special bond we have, so having my dad here at the Olympic village is kind of incredible, because this is something he’s gone through himself as an athlete,” Alex said in an interview from London shortly before the games began. “Walking through the opening ceremonies, it’s going to be something I probably won’t even have words for.”

Two days later, there he was — right at the front when Team USA marched in during the opening ceremonies.
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Mrs. Roosevelt and the Korean bath

Imperial Spa at 1875 Geary shares a parking lot with KFC and a dry cleaners.

FIRST PERSON | Barbara Kate Repa

My friend Johanna and I honor a tradition of embarking on an adventure together to celebrate our birthdays, loosely based on Eleanor Roosevelt’s exhortation that doing scary things makes you stronger.

So when my big day neared this year, I urged an outing to the Imperial Spa at 1875 Geary. It’s an unlikely spot for a spa, next door to the post office, on the former site of the People’s Temple presided over by the Rev. Jim Jones, who infamously led more than 900 of his followers from the Fillmore to a mass suicide in Guyana. Now the site is a short strip mall where the smell of Kentucky Fried Chicken hangs heavy in the air.

Two other friends who know skin and muscle — one an aesthetician, the other a masseuse — had separately sung the praises of the spa. But since neither Johanna nor I had experienced a Korean massage and scrub, the proposed outing held some of the requisite fear factors.
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From ‘the best noses in the world’

Le Labo has completely remade the storefront at 2238 Fillmore.

“FRESH PERFUME IS THE BEST,” proclaims Meg Christensen, manager of Le Labo, the scent emporium that opened during the holidays at 2238 Fillmore Street. The spare shop has no perfume in stock, but will mix one of its 12 fragrances on the spot while the customer waits.

Costs range from $58 for a 15-ml. portion — best for newcomers who want to try a scent on for size — to $700 for a 500-ml. grand size.

The most popular offering so far is Santal 33. The 33 signifies the number of ingredients that go into the mix, with the end result said to be conjure up the “sensual universality” of the Marlboro man — or rather the Marlboro person, given that all Le Labo scents are deemed to be unisex.

“Great fragrances don’t have a gender,” says Christensen, noting that some of the scents are also produced in lotions and long-lasting silicone-based balms.

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Coming full circle at My Boudoir

Photograph of Gerri Nuval by Jim Resonable

Gerri Nuval was a pre-med student at San Francisco State, working part time at a little lingerie shop called Victoria’s Secret on Union Street, when she got sick and the doctors told her to slow down. She pushed through the pain and realized she had found what she really wanted to do: “to be around beauty and to make people feel beautiful,” she says.

She went back to SF State and got her B.A. in design, with a minor in business administration, all while working at Victoria’s Secret.

“I trained with Victoria’s Secret when they were still a small company,” Nuval says. “They had a small boutique shop on Union Street. Here is where the seed was planted. I knew that once they became corporate, they were going to miss out on specialized customer service. I knew then that I had to open my own store, my dream.”

So she learned merchandising, business administration and management and then took the next logical step: She opened My Boudoir Lingerie in June 1998 on Fillmore Street. In 2009 she moved back to Union Street, near where she had started.

“When I look at my store today, here on Union Street again, I see all the tears, the sweat and the hard work,” she says. “A sense of accomplishment is when a customer walks out of my shop, truly happy and confident about her beauty.”

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Custom bike shop opens nearby

Local cyclist Doug Rappaport is a big fan of Bespoke, a new neighborhood bike shop.

FIRST PERSON | Doug Rappaport

Offering handmade bicycles and promising precision maintenance services, Bespoke Cycles is now open at 2843 Clay Street, near Scott, the storefront previously occupied for many years by Tony Kitz Oriental Rugs. As a nearby neighbor and an avid cyclist, I’m excited — because in addition to selling custom bicycles and top-end equipment, Bespoke is quickly becoming a hub for local cycling with bicycle-related events and rides.

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A group’s good news continues

A lucky group: from left, breast cancer survivors Joanna Horsfall, Sarah Morse, Eileen Long, Carrie Sherriff, Barrie Grenell, Leigh Blicher, Jean Hurley and Margo Perin.

FIRST PERSON | Margo Perin

A group of women gathered a few weeks ago for our annual get-together, this year at the home of Fillmore photographer Jean Hurley. We all love to eat and everybody brought something for the potluck, which was, as usual, plentiful and delicious.

As we sat around the exquisitely appointed table, we caught up with each other’s news. The first question, spoken directly or not, was whether anyone had a recurrence of breast cancer. Each of us breathed a sigh of relief: No.
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Women’s clinic adds prenatal care

Only six months after relocating to 1833 Fillmore to deliver free medical care to uninsured and underinsured women, the Women’s Community Clinic has expanded to offer prenatal services to young women in need.

The new program for pregnant women 21 and under is a collaboration between the clinic and the UCSF School of Nursing, which previously offered these services at Mt. Zion Hospital.

“Pregnant teens need high quality, accessible prenatal services,” says Carlina Hansen, executive director of the clinic. “We are proud to partner with UCSF to offer these services and to help young women and families in our community.”

Working alongside UCSF faculty, nursing students will get intensive training in prenatal care, which will in turn increase their future employment opportunities. And the hope is that students and volunteers working in the project will be inspired to become health care professionals serving underserved communities.

While the clinic does not turn away women who need care, the new project focuses on teenage mothers, particularly African Americans in the Western Addition. Needs assessments conducted with area community leaders indicate access to health care resources and information in the area is poor and that teen pregnancy rates are higher than average. Citywide, African Americans have the highest teen birth rate of all demographic groups and an infant mortality rate 2.5 times higher than whites and Hispanics. A high percentage of the Western Addition teens also have low incomes.

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A love affair with lingerie

Photograph of Beverly Weinkauf, proprietor of Toujours, by Susie Biehler

By Barbara Kate Repa

Owning her own lingerie shop was quite literally a dream for Beverly Weinkauf. “I actually had a dream about a candy store with large black and white diamonds on the floor,” she says, “and shelves of apothecary jars full of panties.”

Then, driving home from the airport one night, she saw a “for lease” sign at 2484 Sacramento. It had a hauntingly familiar black and white floor — and the former occupants had operated a vintage candy store. “That gave me the confidence to know that this was my time — and that was my space,” she says as she prepares to celebrate the 25th anniversary of Toujours, her elegant jewel box of a lingerie shop, on October 26.

“I’m ready to celebrate,” says Weinkauf.

But 25 years ago, she was teaching at an elementary school and working part time at a lingerie store in Marin County. “After two years in that store, I knew I could do it all — windows to merchandising,” she says. “Because I loved it all.”

Her parents, now deceased, were lukewarm about her business proposition at first. “They said: ‘We sent you to college to sell underwear?’ ” she recalls. But they came around when they realized how much she wanted to follow her dream, even putting up the $20,000 seed money, which was all it took to start a business back then. They had, perhaps unwittingly, nurtured what she calls her inner “compulsive intuitive shopper” from an early age. She recalls that when she was 16, her father insisted she go with him to Robertson’s department store in South Bend, Indiana, where they lived, to ask about getting a job. She was hired, and there and then began honing her appreciation of working with beautiful things.

She credits her mother, a seamstress, for instilling in her a sense of well-being, for paying attention to how she looked when leaving the house — and for buying her a bra-slip in high school. “So this business is in my DNA,” Weinkauf says.

Beverly Weinkauf at Toujours.

She also says she was beckoned by the location near Fillmore Street and the energy of the city that fills the air as she crosses the bridge driving in from Marin.

“I consider Fillmore to be the best neighborhood,” she says. “It doesn’t go out of its way to get a ‘big this’ or a ‘tacky that’ — and its not crawling with bars.” She adds: “A large number of our customers are right here. We do their special orders. We watch them change over the years. They’re like family.”

The neighborhood has also changed over the years since she opened her shop. Weinkauf recalls nostalgically when Peet’s was Sugar’s Broiler, the greasy spoon rarely open for business at the corner of Fillmore and Sacramento. Across the street, the Coffee Bean & Tea was the Hillcrest, the casual eatery that felt like a living room. A few doors south, Mudpie was still Fillamento, the street’s gift emporium, which sold everything from quirky salt and pepper shakers to high-end bedsheets.

The economy felt more hopeful back then, too, but Weinkauf says the current quavery climate has taught her valuable lessons in buying more frugally from the 40 or so vendors who help keep the tiny shop stocked with bras, panties, bustiers, garter belts, gloves, slips, robes, stockings scarves, gloves, jewelry and scents.

And her customers have remained loyal, even though the city is now home to 11 lingerie shops, compared to five when she first opened. Toujours’ customers range in age from 16 to 84 — mostly women, with some men shopping for the women in their lives. Their shopping styles tend to differ, with women taking 30 to 45 minutes to make a purchase, and men getting the deed done in 5 to 10 — some requesting plain brown bags to discreetly hide their goods.

Weinkauf says the shop’s cozy space and locale — a couple of doors up Sacramento, a bit removed from Fillmore Street’s bustle — is also a boon in that way. “Being around the corner is good for something as intimate as what I sell,” she says.

In fact, there’s something quaint and quiet about the way she does business — maintaining a Toujours website since 1997, for example, although shoppers can’t purchase online. “People can call and order, but we urge them to come in,” she says. “We prefer customers who have shopped in our store before. When we know what lines they prefer, we call or e-blast those who like them.”

The lines she carries tend to be classic, French and romantic: Lou, Huit, Chantelle, Lise Charmel. But she also makes room for others including Pluto from Belgium and local designer Lisa Lagevin of Nightlife, who makes handpainted silk kimonos.

“We cover basics as well as the more playful items,” she says. “We have serious bras with serious details in sizes ranging from 32A to 38G.”

The collection is carefully curated. “We spend a lot of time on the texture and feel of merchandise,” she says. “We try on everything and test drive it before we buy.”

Her co-pilot in test driving is often Brooke Welch, a longtime sales associate. “She can start a sentence and I can finish it,” says Weinkauf. “We have similar visions for Toujours and its merchandise.”

Welch seconds that emotion, adding that she’s learned a lot about the lingerie industry by working elbow to elbow with Weinkauf on and off for about a decade.

Toujours owner Beverly Weinkauf and her colleague Brooke Welch.

“Bev has an understanding of quality goods and has honed her eye for that,” Welch says. “She knows what women want and what doesn’t work for them.”

But Welch says the biggest lesson she’s learned has nothing to do with lace or lingerie. “One of the things I love most about Toujours is that while we have many loyal male customers, by and large, it’s a women’s shop,” she says. “On any given day, four or five women will stop by just to say hi, or show off a new haircut, or let us know they love their new robe. That ‘town market atmosphere’ is unique — a community stop where people feel comfortable sharing their lives. And Bev has cultivated that.”

Weinkauf is also a stickler for a good fit, urging women to take the steps that most skip: being measured and trying on different sizes in different brands. She confesses she recently had dinner with a few women friends and noticed that one seemed a little droopy. “I took her into the bathroom and adjusted her bra straps,” she says. “She came out of there with a whole new attitude — looking like she was in her 20s again.”

The tagline for Toujours is “Begin a Love Affair.” Weinkauf was inspired to coin it because it sounds “come hither” and romantic. “Lingerie invites people to linger. Its energy is not rushed,” she says.

And neither is hers anymore. “By the time you get to middle age, you know what makes you peaceful,” she says. “I walk in the store and it’s an atmosphere of warmth, joy and pure peacefulness.”

Toujours kicked off its 25th anniversary celebration with champagne and a “boob cake.”

Finding the faith — and a good story

Photograph of Julian Guthrie on Fillmore Street by Chris Hardy

FIRST PERSON | JULIAN GUTHRIE

Having lived in San Francisco for nearly 20 years and worked as a reporter first for the Examiner and now for the Chronicle, I have come to see the different ways neighborhoods in the city are defined. For many, the center of a neighborhood is a coffee house, or a park, or a commercial strip to stroll. For me, it’s all those things.

The area around Fillmore Street has long been my home. I jog the steps of Alta Plaza and spend countless hours at the playground with my son. We love the yogurt at Fraiche, the pastries at the Boulangerie and the Fillmore Bakeshop — and we adored its predecessor, Patisserie Delanghe. We’re regulars at Delfina and Dino’s and Florio and SPQR.

This neighborhood works, with its mix of young and old and in between, its families and dogs, its parks and shops. And while countless amazing stores and restaurants have come and gone (Fillamento, the Brown Bag and Bittersweet, to name a few), the relaxed character of the neighborhood remains the same. It’s what drew me here, and what keeps me here.

In recent years, I’ve learned of yet another way people define their neighborhoods: by a house of worship. My new book, The Grace of Everyday Saints — published August 18 — is about a group of people who found a strong sense of community through their spiritual home, St. Brigid, the muscular stone church at the corner of Broadway and Van Ness Avenue.
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